Forget counting sheep: It turns out that self-pleasure is one of the most effective methods for helping you drift off. Masturbation before bed is a healthy practice shown to improve your sleep quality, reduce the stress hormone cortisol, and even enhance your body image.
Sex and Sleep
“Sex and sleep are essential components of well-being,” says sex educator and psychotherapist Sarah Kelleher, CHSE, LCSW.
Some experts think people may benefit from masturbation before sleep, even without orgasm. However, Kelleher adds, “When it comes to studies exploring the connection between sexual activity and improved sleep, research is still sparse.”
1. Improves Sleep Quality
Kelleher agrees, explaining that many of the hormones involved with orgasm could positively impact sleep, including oxytocin and dopamine.
2. Helps Reduce Screen Time
If you find yourself looking at devices before sleep, masturbating instead could help reduce your screen time. This “creates a bedtime routine with less stimulation from technology and more relaxation from taking care of yourself,” adds Gunsaullus.
3. Calms Your Mind
“Choosing to focus your attention on masturbation and reminding yourself you’re worth taking care of can set the stage for a more relaxing shift to sleep,” Gunsaullus says.
In fact, masturbating before sleep might even be considered a mindfulness practice, says certified sex therapist Jaqueline Mendez. She explains that “when masturbating as a mindfulness practice, it’s not necessarily about chasing orgasm; sometimes it’s about paying attention to how different touches to the different parts of your body affect you.”
Aside from its calming benefits, viewing masturbation as a healthy habit may also help rewrite any internal dialogue you have around sexual shame.
4. May Improve Body Image
Lifestyle writer Natalie Arroyo Camacho challenged herself to masturbate before bed every night for a week and discovered that making time for self-pleasure led to a more positive relationship with her body image, something she previously struggled with.
“I’d long been self-conscious that because I’m not a size 2 my body wouldn’t feel good to someone else. But during the experiment I realized that I actually did feel good and that I wasn’t thinking about how my body looked,” Camacho wrote.
After masturbating every night for a week, Camacho found that she felt “less self-conscious about how others might perceive her during partnered sex.”
Mutual masturbation with a partner may also help improve body image as well as show your partner what you like.
Tips for Masturbating Before Bed
1. Set an Alarm or Reminder
Try setting an alarm for one hour before your usual bedtime to cue your body to wind down, suggests Gunsaullus. You can then “use this time to slow down, play some music, or light a scented candle before starting.”
2. Take Your Time
Don’t feel you have to limit your time to just one hour. Taking time to figure out if masturbating before bed will help you sleep better may take some experimentation, Kelleher adds. She suggests paying attention to whether your sleep quality changes or if you notice any differences when drifting off to sleep or waking up.
3. Reduce Distractions
Reducing distractions can help you concentrate on just you. Sexologist Rebecca Alvarez Story suggests tips like making sure your room isn’t cluttered and you have privacy. The less you worry about things like someone accidentally entering the room, the easier it is to let go.
4. Set the Ambiance
Surrounding yourself with things to set the mood, such as candles, aromatherapy, lubricants, or arousal oils, helps you to focus on your immediate environment, Story says. Treating pre-bedtime masturbation as an extension of self-care will help you remember that you’re worthy of pleasure.
The Takeaway
- Sex or masturbation can be a relaxing, stress-relieving activity that can help you get better sleep.
- Masturbating before bed may help you relieve stress, practice better self-care and sleep hygiene, and improve your body image.
- Tips for masturbating before bed include setting a reminder, taking your time, and setting the mood.
